5 Qualities Every Woman Should Have

1. Relationship with God: I believe that this is the most important quality we should all strive to have.




2. Ability to do house chores: Nobody is saying that you should be everyone’s maid because you definitely shouldn’t be. However the ability to do basic chores such as doing laundry, washing the dishes, dusting, sweeping, mopping and keeping a clean home in general is a tool that will definitely serve you well into the future.
Personally, I don’t think you should be totally reliant on a maid.. Let it be that you can do what your maid does in your house but because of convenience or preference, you chose to get one instead. Don’t let your house be at a stand still because your house maid did not come for the day. This is a skill that is not just required for when you get married as you will also need it in the years leading to you becoming a married woman. You should be able to sort yourself out in this guise whether you are in your personal apartment, a school hostel, at your parents’ and especially your husband’s house. Trust me, men don’t like “iyawo alapa stainless” o.






3.The ability to submit/compromise: While submission is a quality that is arguably compulsory only in marriage, the ability to compromise is truly a quality men and women alike should inculcate into their nature everyday.
First things first, you should realise that you will not always have your way in life. You are just setting yourself up for disappointment if you think so. Stubbornness in every matter will definitely get you nowhere far. Whether you call it negotiation or compromise, you will agree with me that it is a quality that will get you further than stubbornness or “agidi” will in a marriage or in the workplace.
When you apply this quality to everyday dealings, you will realise that you are less susceptible to be in arguments or fights with dear friends. Compromise does not mean that you are being ridden over or that you are worthless. It only means that you are strong, wise and considerate enough to listen to what the other person has to say and are willing to arrive at a mutually beneficial conclusion.





4.Work-Life Balance: If you intend to have any sort of healthy social life talk less of a relationship, you need to put in a lot of effort into achieving a work-life balance. Regardless of how busy your schedule may be, you need to strive so as not to become a “scarce commodity” to your husband and children. You don’t even have to be married to count this quality as noteworthy. Know your limits. Take time to rest if you don’t want to drop dead in your prime. Stop collecting money instead of going on leave if you know that you don’t want to die before you can spend all the money you have been saving to help you achieve your objectives. A proverb says that “the lifespan of a job is longer than that of a human being.”
Trust me, if anything goes wrong with you, a replacement will be available almost immediately. Achieving a work-life balance is not just about our loved ones, it is especially because of us. I remember the story of a 30 year old man who had a stroke because he was doing the job of an entire department. They kept saying that he was the best. His daily schedule barely left out time for him to go home to his family, sleep for 3 hours and get back to the office to meet the 8am resumption time. Guess what, when this happened, they hired a replacement who complained about the workload until 2 additional people were hired. Yes he was compensated, but with a stroke at 30, he had the ultimate wake up call.



5. Being a good friend/lover: “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” -Proverbs 18:24
Good friends are truly rare treasures to come by in this journey of life. Learn to stop being a broadcasting service when people entrust you with their secrets, hopes and dreams. Let people be able to confide in you. Be there for your friends through the good and the bad. Encourage your friends when the milestones start rolling in and also when they plan on taking commendable steps. Advise them when it looks like they are going down the wrong path. Be a good listener too and you’ll have one when you need. The value of a good friend is always inestimable and cannot be matched. A good friend is always valued, honoured and held in high esteem. A bad friend is always disgraced and unwanted. Be reliable. Let your yes be yes and your no no. Have a peaceful and forgiving spirit not a nagging, bitter and unforgiving one.
Let this goodness also spill into your more intimate relationships. With your boyfriend/fiance/husband, the same applies. Be a rock of support to him. Let him think of you and be at peace that you are indeed reliable. Let him be able to talk to you. Be his best friend. Make efforts to build a solid bond with your partner that transcends sex. Let him look at you and smile in confidence that his days will indeed be peaceful.

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